Cor – what a week! Work has been flat out and I have barely had time to come up for air never mind find the time to write a blog post. It has been one great big work whirl!
May, is my month of making effort and, to be honest, I’m not doing great at it. I was far better at April’s theme which was decluttering and I have managed very easily to well and truly roll the theme into May as last weekend we cleared out M’s clothes. He must have six times as many clothes as I have. Not any more! We managed to fill two massive blue Ikea bags to take to our local charity shop. It was a rock and roll five hours on a Saturday night and we ended up with 76 spare hangers?! Bizarre. I loved it though. Spring cleaning, I;m not ashamed to say, is a favourite. You can read my Marie Kondo posts here and here for tips on decluttering.
Making an effort in every part of your life all of the time is hard. Too hard. It is, too much like hard work.
Just as you can’t be everything to everyone, I have learned that it is nigh on impossible to unreservedly and unerringly to put effort into everything. Constantly. In fact, I’d go as far to say it actually may be counterproductive. It’s demotivating. I don’t think you can be everything to yourself all the time.
Case in point. As my “fantasy self” (the one where I do yoga every morning, can say no to “top up?”, make my own packed lunch and am four inches taller), I would eat cleanly and healthily every day.
In real life, I just can’t do it.
I would love to be a bit healthier. But at odds with this is is my adoration chocolate covered popcorn and have a penchant for Fajitas any day of the week: Fajita Friday, Fajita Saturday, Fajita Wednesday, you catch my drift…
I’ve got such a sweet AND savoury tooth! I can’t abstain. Why would I never eat chocolate again? Why would I never say to myself I can’t have a hot,tangy fajita again?
What I am learning is that, for me, the answer is small steps in the form of swapping.
When it comes to food I am pretty aware that there is no way I can give up a food group entirely.
As an aside, oddly, I can do this with non-food items. I haven’t read the Daily Mail sidebar of shame since New Year’s Eve 2014/15, I deleted Candy Crush Saga a year prior to that and have never played it again and last New Year’s Eve I gave up watching Friends. I’d seen them all a dozen times before. I went cold turkey on them all and I haven’t looked back. I think I got to the point where I’ve been saturated by them.
So what’s the stumbling block with food? Well, I like it too much and as soon as I say to myself I can’t have something obviously I want it.
But what I am capable of is improving one meal a day.
I can nimbly sidestep a bowl of sugary cereal or a breakfast muffin and instead blitz a smoothie in my Nutribullet to take to work. Easy. I prep it the night before so it’s all in the cup and then I whizz it up in the morning.
Here are some of my favourites:
For snacks, I have 90% dark chocolate in the fridge if I just can’t resist it and a bowl of apples. I also like energy balls as well and until this week my office has been right next to the Deliciously Ella Mae Deli so it’s been super easy to get my fix.
And sometimes it’s also not just about choosing the better option it’s about not choosing the worse option. Pret tries to lure me with an utterly-butterly croissant to accompany my coffee every time. I find it best to get in and out of there as quickly as possible (although I do say yes about once a fortnight). To stop me buying chocolate popcorn I have to walk a different way to the tube!
So I am persevering with small steps. Every little helps. Every slightly better decision is better than a slightly worse one. It is a nudge in the right direction and I have learned to make next month’s them a lot more defined and specific no more wildly vague monthly themes for me!.
Have a great Bank Holiday weekend everyone!